प्रतिग्रहो दातृवशः श्रुतमेतन्मया पुरा, यधा वक्ष्यसि धर्मज्ञ तत्करिष्यामहे वयम्।

-श्रिमद्वाल्मीकि रमयणे बालकान्डे एकोनसप्ततिमस्सर्गः(१४)

Regarding the wedding of SriRama, Bharata, Lakshmana and Satrughna, King Janaka asked King Dasaratha to perform the wedding as per Rishis’ intension. Dasaratha, who is an expert in conversation, and an able man, replied in the above mentioned way. That is : “Oh King Janaka, who knows the righteous path! Acceptance is in the donor’s hands. Acceptor can take it only when donor gives it. We have heard about your decision to donate your daughters (as wives to suitable grooms). We will follow the way you suggest”.

There are some dharmaas associated with this sloka:

1. Earlier, king Janaka had determined to wed Seeta (who is never born but only existed) to only that man who could lift Lord Siva’s bow. King Janaka knew that it was very appropriate to wed seetamahalakshmi, who is equivalent of planet earth in patience, to lord SriRama. That means, donating something to someone who does not deserve it, is inappropriate and unacceptable. A thing should be donated only to a deserving person by all means. This is donor’s dharma.

2. Though it is King Dasaratha who was accepting Seeta and others as his daughter-in-laws, he waited for King Janaka to see if he is agreeable with. This teaches us that however mighty the acceptor may be, he has to wait for donor while accepting the donation. This is what King Dasaratha taught us through this sloka.

3. Moreover, Acceptor should not ask for this and that (that is, for everything that he likes to possess). The acceptor should obey the donor and the donation, whatever it may be. This is precisely what was taught to us by Sadguru Adi Sankaracharya through his Bhajagovinda Stotram, which runs as “…Yellabhase nija karmopaattam vittam tena vinodaya chittam…”. This means, one should not ask for everything he would like to possess. Instead, one should be satisfied at his heart with whatever he gets (as donation by his vidhi) by his own past deeds. This acceptor’s dharma.